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Body Confidence

Posted by on Oct 13, 2009 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

A few days ago, Ralph Lauren released an advertisement with model Fillipa Hamiltion that had been digitally altered, resulting in a freakishly thin Fillipa.  Ralph Lauren did publicly apologize and take responsibility for the ad, however, it doesn’t change the fact that the company thought that the photo of an emaciated woman would be considered attractive. Dove recently started a “campaign for real beauty” and created a short video called  “Evolution” which shows how professional makeup, hair, and a computer alter a woman’s face to prepare her for a billboard ad.  You can watch that video here....

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Communication Gridlock

Posted by on Sep 13, 2009 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Communication Gridlock Here is an excerpt of a typical argument between Ted and Jennie: (Names have been changed). “We have some version of the same argument over and over,” Ted said.  “She nags me and then says I don’t listen.  What she doesn’t seem to get is her nagging makes me not want to listen!”  Jennie responded, “I only nag because you don’t listen!  You are worse than the kids.  You constantly forget important dates and I can’t rely on you to do what you say you’re going to do.”   What Causes Communication Gridlock? When communication gridlock happens, neither person is willing to listen to the...

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Inviting the Demons

Posted by on Aug 9, 2009 in Uncategorized | 2 comments

Milarepa was a Tibetan saint. The story goes that he was peacefully meditating in his cave when the demons of greed, fear, and anger appeared. They were terrifying. The flesh hung from their bones, and they smelled foul. They held bloody knives and swords. Milarepa looked up and said, “Ah, I’ve been expecting you. Come sit by my fire, have tea.” They said, “Aren’t you afraid of us?” He said, “No. Your hideous appearance only reminds me to be aware and have mercy. Come sit by my fire and have tea.” Avoiding Our Fear Unlike Milarepa, we usually do not invite our fear for tea.  Instead, we push it away, kick it out the door,...

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The Joshua Bell Experience

Posted by on Jun 6, 2009 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

A remarkable story was published in the Washington Post that was written by Gene Weingarten entitled, “Pearls Before Breakfast.” The gist of the article is this:  One of the finest classical musicians in the world, Joshua Bell, plays his violin (which by the way is worth 3.5 million dollars) in the DC subway to commuters on their way to work, and hardly anyone notices. He plays some of the most difficult and beautiful pieces that can be played by a solo violinist, and earns about $32 in tips. Two days before his performance in the subway, Joshua Bell had sold out Symphony Hall in Boston where the average seat price was $100.  If you’d like to read the...

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Do You Create Rules to Maintain Low Self-Esteem?

Posted by on May 4, 2009 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Rules to Maintain Low-Self Esteem Rule #1: Be perfect.  Under no circumstances are you allowed to make a mistake. Rule #2: Always please others.  Even when you are stretched to the limit, say yes to that extra task, appointment, or commitment. Rule #3: Focus on your flaws.  After all, that is the only way self-improvement will happen, right? Don’t focus on your accomplishments- that is egotistical and selfish, and besides, you got lucky. Rule #4: Ignore your own boundaries and needs.  Allow other people take advantage of you, feel angry about it, and see yourself as inferior to them. Rule #5: Take everything personally.  Assume other people’s actions and...

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